Thursday, September 22, 2016

It Was a Wonderful Life

How do you move forward when you lose the love of life, your soul mate, your best friend, your lover, the father of your children, the best thing that ever happened to you, the person you had spent your entire adult life with? The person who put up with you longer than your mother! 

How do you reinvent your life after Mr. Right?

Leaning on your memories of that wonderful life together is a great comfort. There isn't a day that goes by that I thank God for bringing Phil into my life. And there isn't a day that goes by that I think it's going to be a really long lifetime without him. I thrived because of his love.  I became a better person. I believe my success is due to his love, support & encouragement.  

He wasn't perfect, neither was I. Once I picked up a Hallmark Valentine's Day card and it said..."We were perfect together." I especially thought of that phrase the last year of Phil's life as we attempted to prepare for him to die.

Phil was a man of actions and not much for words.  It presented a lot of problems for me when we were a young couple. I didn't understand why he just couldn't say things. I wore my heart on my sleeve and knew that if I was ever going to marry a man it was going to be Phil on our second date...it took Phil fourteen months to tell me he loved me...but I knew he loved me long before he told me, I felt it.

I wish there would have been more words that last year of Phil's life, but the reality was the first six months I was filled with hope, because I didn't want to be without him. Ultimately I didn't have a choice. 

He didn't want to leave us.